X wont share his phone or work info

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Registered: 03-06-2005
X wont share his phone or work info
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Thu, 04-21-2005 - 1:11pm

This is completely embarassing. My XH won't share his work name or number and he won't share his cell phone number. I am instructed to email him if there is a problem with the kids. He always takes 1-2 days to respond to emails.


Last night I decided to trace one of the IP's he emailed me from yesterday and it gave me a work address ( I think ) . I emailed him and said " is this your work address, I need it for some of our son's school paperwork. Well, he just said I don't understand why the school would want this information? And he wouldn't confirm or deny what it was.


I mean honestly, what can I do with a work address besides contact him if there was an emergency. It's like he is hiding something.


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Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 1:15pm

I would just assume that if he won't give the information up, then he's going to loose out on the benefit of being an emergency contact for the children, or learning right away if something bad were to happen. When it comes to the school paperwork just pretend he's dead and put n/a. If the school asks, tell them the truth.

If you can get the cs to go through the state, he will have to turn his work information over to them, and making him do that might bring more satisfaction than having him agree to give it to you.

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 1:57pm

Good point.


Verrrrrrrrrrrry good point ;)


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 3:45pm

If you don't have the information, then I wouldn't sweat it.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Thu, 04-21-2005 - 3:53pm

Also a good point, it ALL is HIS problem!


You are absolutely right! :)


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 5:24pm

Doesn't it make you feel so much better when you can shift the responsibility? (Well, it never really was your responsibility, you just felt the need to own it because you know it's good for the best interest of your kids.)


One of the reasons that I stayed so stressed in my marriage was because I let HIS ACTIONS (or inactions) stress me out.... which was a major reason for the need to disassociate myself from him.


Now, his actions (and inactions) are just that.... HIS!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Thu, 04-21-2005 - 9:48pm
Hiding something or just does not want anything to upset his new life. My stbx still does that too. Moved twice without telling me(actually 3x) I knew the town ,the job and the phone though. But its all about what they think they have under control. I guess. My H has yet to give any of that info to school. On his personal checks he has the address of his work building.