Yay for me!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Yay for me!!
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Thu, 07-13-2006 - 8:43pm
I didn't cry. This is the first therapy session I didn't cry at. STBX showed the counselor the email he sent me earlier this week. He thought it was so moving and heart felt. Man, what is with all of these men acting like women, I mean heck, they are showing more estrogen than me. I told the counselor that the email ticked me off and that stbx came across as controlling, condensending, unstable and blame pointing. He asked me if I had considered stopping the divorce and I told him no. Simply put, until stbx admits he has a control problem AND trys to work on it there will be no reconciliation. The MIL issue could be compromised on. His obsessiveness could be overlooked. BUT his disrespect of the two older children will not be. STBX emailed this morning telling my how he appriciated being invited to join us for dinner but since he was forced out of the house he can't digest food. "He is only eating one meal a day." "He was sorry he was skittish last night but he doesn't feel comfortable in our home because he was forced out." Can you say manipulative? Oh!!!! This really ticked me off. He said "I was comforted to have _______ hug me, I told him thank you. I just wanted you to know." OMG!!! How dare he bask in the love of _______ and not return the respect and love!!!! STBX is like a child needing to know he is wanted and loved but won't return it to the two boys who want to give it to him!!!! The older two boys call him dad. He has been their dad since they were in diapers. Over eight years! And he drops them like a hot potatoe?!?! I'm actually considering sending him an email tonight expressing my thoughts. I told the counselor tonight that I don't hate him. That maybe one day after the divorce he will realize that he has a problem to work on and maybe then we can work on a relationship. However, for the here and now, I am not calling off this divorce. Stand strong!!!
 
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: soccermomlc
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 11:27pm

Well, all of what he's saying is desperation to try to guilt you into "forgiving".... yourself!.... enough to see how wrong..... you've been... and let him come home... and you're seeing right through it, which tells me a LOT about where you are emotionally... and just how smart you are!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~