Yesterday was hard....wwyd with kids??
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Yesterday was hard....wwyd with kids??
| Mon, 06-18-2007 - 4:24pm |
STBX took the kids for the weekend, and I got them back last night. Our 4yo cried and screamed DADDY for almost 3 hours after I picked him up! Not to mention STBX had one heck of a time getting him to stay in his booster seat when he put him there. *sigh* When we got home DS ran to his room, slammed the door, and layed on his bed still crying and screaming...I just about couldn't handle it! I feel like such crap, like it's my fault he's going through this...and I really hope STBX feels like crap too.
Any ideas on how to make the transitions smoother? Maybe when we meet I should just take both kids, put them in the car, and leave, making the goodbyes as short as possible??
The real kicker was when I told DS 'I love you, goodnight' and he said 'NO! DADDY!'
This sucks. :(
Any ideas on how to make the transitions smoother? Maybe when we meet I should just take both kids, put them in the car, and leave, making the goodbyes as short as possible??
The real kicker was when I told DS 'I love you, goodnight' and he said 'NO! DADDY!'
This sucks. :(

I like the pet idea, but I'm not so sure it would work for him.
Kids understand alot more than we give them credit for. Are there any kids around you that may be going thru the same thing?
Just show him love and support.... and yes, make the transitions as short and plesant as possible... and when he screams "NO DADDY!" simply say, "yes, daddy loves you too!" and walk away.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Aura,
I'd really advise against getting a pet of any kind for your child right now. That's another whole layer of responsibility and expense you don't need. Any animal, even a fish, needs care and maintenance every day. I'd suggest, if possible, you get your children into counseling. They are too little to understand why you and your husband aren't together and so the only way they know how to express their fear, anger, and pain is by crying and sulking. A good counselor can help you, too, understand how to help them.
Best wishes,
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Separation/divorce isn't at all the same as parents planning individual activities with their children. The children certainly see that, and as the adults in the situation, we should also. I think everyone has guilt about divorcing when there are children in the marriage, no matter what the reason. But at least let's not address that guilt by telling ourselves that this really isn't any different than a day at the park with mommy or daddy, but not both. Separate is definitely not equal in the eyes of our children.
To the poster: your little boy is clearly devastated by the separation from his father. I know that must be tearing you up inside as his mother, and I really hope you seek counseling for yourself as well as your child to help you through this. I'm heartbroken for both you and your little boy that he is reacting with such distress, and you have my prayers that he can adjust and you can all recover from this terrible transition period. (((hugs)))
Cat
Mom to 5: DS-17, DD-16, DD-11, DD-9, DS-7