You have GOT to be kidding me
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You have GOT to be kidding me
| Tue, 06-14-2005 - 4:43pm |
Ex picked up our son from child care and called me and continued to berrade me becuase i forgot to pack him a sippy cup. I told him that he had at least one at his place as I've sent several and they didn't come back, and come on, you can get a pack of disposible/re usable sippy cups at the $1 store for $1...and he then told me I was an irresponsbile parent, and that it was my responsbility to send my son what he needed when he visited his father. Umm, yeah. Who is the irresponsible person? He's supposed to be paying half of all uninsured medical costs, of which I have about $135 this year .. he almost $1,500 behind in child support...but i'm irresponsible for notsending a cup.

Hug sweetie.
My ex did the same thing to me. Last fall, when it was still nice outside, ( we had a few cold one's but nothing major ) I forgot to send a winter hat with my daughter. The next day I got a NASTY email from XH's GF stating "are you going to send a hat, boots, mittens, winter jacket with your daughter or am I going to have to get things on my own" ( nice version ) I didn't respond but emailed my XH and just said, sorry i forgot it, the weather is unpredictable, it can be 70 one day and freezing rain the next. I checked the weather and didn't think she would need a winter hat. He emailed me back and called me an irresponsible mother for not sending her winter hat.
He has disappeared for 7 out of the 18 months my daughter has been born. Owes, 4K in child support ( but I can only legally file for 1500.00 because that goes back to the date when I filed for divorce, anything before is not something I can get ) Bounced numerous child support checks.....Those things are just the beginning....
But I am irresponsible because I forgot to send her hat. ummmmmmmm, yeah.
Don't let it get to you. They are saying this stuff to somehow justify what they don't do. It makes it in their mind feel like you did something SO WRONG that you deserve a public caning so he doesn't think he is the only one who did something wrong.
No worries, you are a good mommy and a sippy cup doesn't affect that one bit :)
OMG! But you did send a sippy cup, several you said, they are at his house! Not that you should have to, and you are totally right about the $1 store. How about letting him know he's a Parent and that requires that when he's going to have Parenting Time he be prepared to Care For His Child! It's like he's admitting you are the only parent here, the only one capable of determining and providing necessary care objects. Ask him if he's a dad or a babysitter. A dad should have a few things at his house to provide for his son. A babysitter is right to request every little thing be provided.
Plus if you have to provide 100% of all things, then that means you incur 100% of all child expenses, and that means child support should increase. I am sure the law takes into account he has the child sometimes, and he already gets a deduction for direct expenses he should have when his son's with him.
Girl, I swear they are all the same. It's truly amazing how much. Over the weekend when my ex was supposed to pick up our son he was 3 1/2 hours late. And through all his calls with a different excuse as to why he was late he had the nerve to ask ME, if I'd be willing to bring the baby to meet him and his little brat of a gf. When she's the whole reason he was picking him up anyway b/c some girl she works with was having a b-day party for her kid. He used to work with her until he got fired.
When he finally did get there he had the nerve to ask me why was he wearing what he was wearing. WHAT! I was enraged. I have you know my son looked very cute that day.
Girl we just have to stick together, they are real jerks
Many years ago I was taught that the proper reaction to give when confronted by a Flasher (man who exposes his private parts to unsuspecting females) is to point your finger at their groin and laugh loudly and heartily.
I believe that would be a good response to give to any jerk who would dare to lecture you over a sippy cup. "Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!" *click*
HAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHHAHHAHAHHAH
Ok now THAT was funny :)
I think we all were married to the same man... THAT explains it!
Good point aniaab :)