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| Sat, 09-08-2007 - 4:51pm |
I found my stbx had/has a few online personals. One he specifically paid for earlier this year on marriedsecrets.com. I'm not sure if that's what saddens me the most though. I have talked to him and convinced him it's okay to move to be with her after our oldest graduates from hs nex spring and I will move too taking our youngest so that we can all still be near each other. Yeah, I know. It's weird. Anyway, one of the sites he visited was after I had moved out and clearly knew he would be with her permanently one day. They have my full blessing to get married whenever it works out for them. I have no hate or anything for any of them. Well, he had visited this one site so I checked it out. Knowing that he cheated on her with me many many years ago and then cheated on me with her this summer (don't think he quite sees it that way though, guys don't understand), I was curious to see what would happen if he was contacted by someone on that site. I signed up and even paid a month so that I could email him. He really was trying to carry on conversations with this fake person. So I started chatting with him. I know, terrible of me. Well, he wanted to meet. I knew I was screwed so I eventually let him find out it was me. Well, he was pissed that I did that and lied after I told him no more lies. He said there was no good reason why I would have done that even after I told him why I did it. He says he told his girlfriend that he thought someone was messing with him but didn't tell her it was me. I was truly trying to find out how soon he would cheat on her but he doesn't see it that way.
So I asked if he had just created the account recently, months ago or when. I wanted to know how long ago he started to look for someone else. He said it was a year ago but never did anything with it. Well, it was more like 2 years ago it looks like. And it has current information like the zip code we've only had a year. I got rid of my account. He didn't though. He just hid his profile. I'll need to check back every once in awhile and see if he ever makes it unhidden. If he had no intentions of doing anything he would have gotten rid of it, right? Same with his hidden personal profile on yahoo. He may be hidden but he gets update 3 times a week. What does that say about him?
I have learned so much about him that I don't know if I have really known him for the last year or two. This girlfriend who was his fiance 18 years ago (at the same time I told him I was pregnant) went out with him for drinks one weekend, he saw her the next weekend, and the following weekend he asked me to leave. He actually sped up the timeline he had laid out to her and asked me to leave 2 weeks earlier than planned.
I really hope he doesn't screw things up with her.

He IS screwing up with her... or he wouldn't even have those sites notifying him... or even have a profile up at all.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~