Your Kidding me...right

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Registered: 11-06-2005
Your Kidding me...right
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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 7:15pm

So tears and anguish last week, difficult horrible week. But went to counciling, talked with all of you, here I am feeling stronger and much better. Then today happens!!

I opened up yesterday's mail to find that our car insurance is being cancelled...why...because he got a DUI on May 24th!!!! Never told me or the girls, he had to hire a lawyer go to court go to an alchol abuse class, it has now cost him 1400!! He had the nerve to get nasty with me, that was it I informed him that for all he told me about not caring about me and how he proves it by letting us suffer finacially that there was no reason any more for us to speak about any of this. He ended up driving over here to "talk" to me, I let him know again that because he does not want to be with me there was no reason to "talk" that it was a waste of my time. After my daughter (who was gone this past week) asked me to speak to him I finally agreed. At the end of the conversation he said that maybe I was right and that we should speak to someone to see if we could resolve any of our issues. I looked right at him and asked for what reason, you don't want to be with me anymore and why waste our time.

This is a joke right, I knew that if I became stronger that he might do this, but I figured that would be in a few months not five days. I want to stand on my first instinct and tell him no but that whole concept of not being the bad guy for the girls is killing me. I don't think I will have to worry to much, I'm sure he will come back around and remember he does not want me, if not his mom will remind him how much "they" hate me.

ARRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!

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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 10:41pm

Oh my gosh... how horrible... first things first... can you get insurance for yourself, separate from him? I know that when xh and I were separating, we got our own insurance (or rather he got his own--I kept my original policy), but after it was separated, the insurance company had one of his accidents still on my record... they did some research and confirmed what I had told them (he was the one driving for that accident) and removed it...

I would be beyond pissed off... but am hoping that venting has helped and you are now in a calmer place... sending hugs and wishes for peace your way!

Julie

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Mon, 07-03-2006 - 4:22pm

I guess because we are still married there is some law that states we can seperate out our insurance. It just infuriates me. And now he is flip flopping on me, he might want to go seek help and he's not in a big hurry to get divorced, maybe we should see how things go.

I'm so frustrated, it's just another way to keep me down.

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Mon, 07-03-2006 - 10:20pm

Have you checked with your insurance company? I know that when we first got married, xh wanted to keep his own insurance, but I talked him into going on mine because it was much cheaper to go joint than have 2 policies...

When we were separating, my company was more than willing to work with me... but...they wouldn't let me drop his vehicle off the policy until he had provided proof of insurance to them, so they knew he wasn't driving uninsured...

It really sucks, but call them and just check (it never hurts and it could help a huge deal...)

*hugs*

Julie

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Thu, 07-06-2006 - 12:07pm
I got a new car right after we seperated and I asked then. She stated until we were divorced I was stuck. I'm waiting to see what his lawyer does. Apparently, he got it wiped from his record so this would not happen. I'm waiting to see what comes of this. I have until Sept 5th to figure it out.
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Thu, 07-06-2006 - 10:11pm

I'm sorry to hear you're stuck... it really does suck...

*hugs*

Julie