10 Suggestions to Help You Forgive

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10 Suggestions to Help You Forgive
Sun, 09-02-2007 - 8:44pm

Ten Suggestions to Help You Forgive



The following is a review of the steps you can take to end your resentment:

  • 1. Make a list of all those people you are ready to forgive. Remember to include yourself in the group of people you need to forgive. Include all the reasons you need to forgive them.

  • 2. Notice how your resentments are harming you. Write down the consequences of your resentments.

  • 3. List the hostile thoughts you think most about each person.

  • 4. Write down the negative actions you take against these people - how you avoid them, gossip or make sarcastic remarks about them, physically attach them, and so forth.

  • 5. Make a commitment to stop those thoughts and deeds as much as you can. You might have to start with one or two people on your list so you don't get overwhelmed.

  • 6. Make another list. On this one write down at least three positive characteristics of each person. After you write them, relax. Breathe deeply. Begin to appreciate each person as a unique human being. By the way, no "yeah, buts" allowed. Don't follow praise with criticism.

  • 7. Many people can begin to forgive others by praying for them. Another way is to think good thoughts about them.








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