Guidelines to Avoid Building Resentments

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Guidelines to Avoid Building Resentments
Sun, 09-02-2007 - 8:47pm

Guidelines to Avoid Building Resentments

People will always do things that bother us. Here are a few simple guidelines that will help keep resentments from building:

  • Try to address the real issue without exaggerating it. Stay realistic.

  • Stay active. Resentments build up most when you are inactive. That's when you start to feel helpless and hopeless. Don't allow yourself to think, act, or fee like a victim.

  • Stay in the present as much as possible. Don't go back to old injuries. Concentrate only on what's hurting you today. You can confront someone without debating how many times it's happened before.

  • Stick to the issue. Take the view that you don't like specific behaviors of the person rather than the person him/herself.

  • Get help if you need it. Don't let your anger turn into resentment and hate.

  • Don't depend upon someone else for your serenity. Make it happen for yourself.

  • "Ignoring the facts
    does not change the facts"
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    ~ cl-2nd_life