Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries
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Thu, 03-12-2009 - 2:05am

Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries



  • * Trusting no one-trusting anyone-black and white thinking

  • * Telling all

  • * Talking at an intimate level at the first meeting

  • * Falling in love with a new acquaintance

  • * Falling in love with anyone who reaches out

  • * Being overwhelmed or preoccupied with another person

  • * Acting on first sexual impulse

  • * Being sexual for a partner, not self

  • * Going against personal values or rights to please others

  • * Not noticing when others display inappropriate boundaries

  • * Not noticing when someone invades your boundaries

  • * Accepting food, gifts, touch, sex that you don't want

  • * Touching a person without asking

  • * Taking as much as you can get for the sake of getting

  • * Giving as much as you can give for the sake of giving

  • * Allowing someone to take as much as they can get from you

  • * Letting others direct your life

  • * Letting others describe your reality

  • * Letting others define you

  • * Believing others can anticipate your needs

  • * Expecting others to fill your needs automatically

  • * Falling apart so someone will take care of you

  • * Self abuse

  • * Sexual, physical and verbal/emotional abuse

  • * Food abuse
  • Reposted with permission from the Codependents & Love Addicts board







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