Emotional affair?

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Registered: 02-04-2014
Emotional affair?
Tue, 02-04-2014 - 12:33am

I found out yesterday that my husband is/was having an emotional affair.  He'd been acting strange lately such as asking when I would be home or the dates of my upcoming business trip. He also was coming to bed unusually late.  He started to be worried about me using his phone which is not normal behavor for him.  I finally did something I know was wrong but I checked his email on his IPad when he was out. I found several emails to a girl he "met" on my free cams.  There were several message mostly sexual some not. He wrote her poetry and said she inspired him.  Also talked about his dissatisfaction w me saying I do not want sex enough.  They live  in separate cities but talked about meeting in person.  she's married w kids and wanted to meet my husband in person at a bar with her husband.  Said they'd act like they didn'to know each other but would strike up a conversation as if they're strangers.  He said neither of them had intentions of bring physical but wanted to see each other in person. He swears had never wanted to have sex with her and this was just a fantasy. I know out marriage is in trouble. Other than therapy I don't know what to do from here. Any suggestions from people who've faced similar situations is much appreciated.

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Tue, 02-04-2014 - 11:47pm

PS it is not necessary to place the same post in ever thread.   That looks like fishing for a specific response so the poster can point and say other agree with their point of view.


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Registered: 11-28-2013
Fri, 02-28-2014 - 10:48am

Your marriage is in danger. If I were you, I will do evrything to prevent the meeting from happening. Maybe a heart to heart talk with your husband will help. I can't say it will immediately solve yourproblem, but at least it will pave the way for the both of you to addressing the problems imminent in your relationship. A word of advice, when you talk, don't be so defensive and be accusive , pointing all the faults to your husband. Listen for what he has to say, and acknowledge your mistakes as well. Goodluck. I hope you can be able to save the relationship by rekindling your love for each other. 

Go on, you owe it to yourself to give it one last shot. Make it count.

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Registered: 07-07-2013
Sun, 04-20-2014 - 10:21am
Sometimes a good Talk with your husband can stop him from his affair with this girl. If he is not yet yielding then yes you have a real problem at hand.

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