Going into the fire knowing it :(

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-03-2009
Going into the fire knowing it :(
Thu, 09-12-2013 - 11:10am

Hi all 

i am new to this board and need advice... I been single for eight months and have becomes really good freind with a co- worker.. In the beginning he never showed any interested in me and we would talk about everything.. I even met his girlfriend and she seem like a nice lady. I don't know when this happen but our conversation went from just being good freind to when are we going to do it... I am so freaking attractive to him that I should of known better.  why can I just let him go before it too late and we act on our lust for one another ? Why do men cheat??? 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 09-12-2013 - 11:15am

Not all men cheat and there are various reasons why the men who do cheat do it. But the next time that he asks when are you going to "do it" why don't you say that you have too much respect for yourself to be the woman on the side to a guy who has a girlfriend?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Thu, 09-12-2013 - 12:05pm

Men cheat because they find women who are willing to cheat with them!  Is that all you think you deserve, to be a sex partner to a man who is already in a relationship?  You say "going into the fire" as though you think every relationship is bad.  That's only if you accept bad relationships!  What has being single for eight months got to do with it?  If you want a good man, then you look for a good man, if it takes eight YEARS!  Aren't you worth more than a few moments of "lust"?  You need to work on loving yourself before you can find true love from another person.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2002
Tue, 09-17-2013 - 1:06pm

Okay, so not only does this guy have a gf, whom you've met and know to be a nice woman, he is also your co-worker?  There are so many red flags here and I'm surprised you would be willing to risk so much for what will surely be a short-term thing.  I guess if you are going to go through with it, be very prepared (and not at all surprised) to deal with the consequences of your actions.  You do have a choice, choose wisely!

If this does not come back to haunt you now, it will eventually.

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

.  -Albert Einstein

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Tue, 09-24-2013 - 12:33am

Why do men cheat?  Because they find women who are willing to cheat with them!  You ask that as though his being a cheater would make it alright for you to participate in his cheating.  What he does has nothing to do with what YOU do........don't lower yourself to his level.  He is a low-life........if you accept his advances, then you're the same.  Don't blame him, you are able to say yes, or say no.

Community Leader
Registered: 05-14-2001
Mon, 10-07-2013 - 11:38pm

I hate to tell you, but if you "do it" with him, you're a cheater too.  Granted, you aren't in a relationship but you'll be having a relationship with someone whom you know IS in a relationship, which means you know you're cheating.  So I ask you, why do YOU cheat?

~ cl-2nd_life