How could some men put up with women like that or viceversa? I don’t get it.
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|Thu, 07-24-2014 - 7:06pm|
I am not married but I don’t understand some married women behavior towards the relationship they have with her spouses and it is even worse when there are children involved. I mean how could women really live in toxic relationships and believe that is normal don’t they realize is not healthy to live like that?
I try to be briefly but I just want to point an example of a lady at work who happens to share the same space as me and if I know many things about her private and personal life is cause she loves to argue and discuss her family problems with her husband everyday at work over the phone.
This lady is 24 yrs old and have a 5 yr old daughter. Her husband works as a driver for some electrical supply company or similar. He is is very unstable in his work cause since I know this lady his husband had been like in 4 jobs already. The thing is that there is no one day that this lady start to vent her problems with her husband over the phone at work and she uses the work phone for that and sometimes her cell phone. But that is an everyday routine for her, instead of discussing things at home before she came to work, she does it at work, like maybe 1 hour after she left home to come to work. I mean she just left home and saw her husband just minutes ago but she continues to speak to him at work to argue and discuss with him. She many times raises her voice to him when arguing over the phone. I know her entire life just for the conversations she had with her husband over the phone and I don’t even know her husband but by the way they discuss to each other I think I already know him. This lady controls her husband in a way that if It was me I already had divorced her.
She gets upset when she calls him and he does not answer for whatever reason he could not call her. She questions him why he did not answer her call or her text message and she just call him to ask him that. They discuss over the phone family related stuff, about her family (mom, dad, siblings or his parents, siblings, aunts cousins, etc), they also discuss about their daughter many times a day. Her mom is the one taking care of her daughter while she is at work, her mom does not work but she loves to watch soap operas, and sometimes this lady calls her mom first to ask how is her daughter and then to discuss with her mother the soap opera she is watching, the plot, the characters.
This lady likes to butt in her husband work and argues with him about his work, about the salary he is earning, why is not so much or so little they also like to discuss about home financials, expenses and income. Her husband never butts in in her wife work but she do butt in in her husband work. But then there are times when she calls him in a lovely way she tells him “Love, how are u today what u doing”? Are u going to pick me up today? Then all of a sudden she can change her act and could call him and yelled at him for any reason they are arguing or they just call him just to discuss and argue. She even calls him out of the blue at work time to ask him “where are you what are u doing?”, I called you and you did not respond why is that”
The part that I do not understand is that this guy let his wife treat him like that, he is a total wimp, he does not stand up for himself, I believe. He likes to hear his wife arguing with him or raising her voice it looks like cause since he aint not saint either he also has the bad habit of calling her at work too several times a day, either to discuss something but that something leads always to an argument.
I feel for their daughter for sure for being raised like in that bad environment of her parents. If the husband promises her wife she is going to pick her up at work (she does not have a car but the only car they have at home is the one the husband has and it is registered under his wife name!!!) at a certain time and he is not arriving on time or it is running late, she calls him to ask him, where is he and why he has not arrived that hurry. She really controls him but then again the guy is a wimp but also has his bad habits too.
I know all of this cause just for the calls they made to each other and Im seated very close to her, I already know their entire personal life hehe!! Imagine that when they argue there could be visits or clients and she does not mind discussing with her husband while clients are in the waiting area. So embarrassing!!!