Mother wants to keep in touch with my ex
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|Sun, 01-13-2013 - 1:21am|
I've search high and low for a place to unload and hope someone out there can help put perspective on my situation.
Long story short - girl meets girl, girl moves across country to live with boy, girls Mother (or should I say girl who was always a Mother to her Mother throughout her repeat need for support?) pays a short visit, girl and boy split up, and Mother is intent on keeping in touch with boy (while still unloading her own issues on girl). Mother thinks boy is the cats meow and pays no attention to her daughter explaining the reason why she left was because boy was actually a little boy who wanted a Mother, not a partner. She just keeps telling her that SHE thinks he's super and a real catch.
I want no links to this guy - I gave and gave and gave to the point of exhaustion, if not humiliation - and at a time when my Mother, who I've always supported, could show solidarity, she calls to tell him she thinks he's great, wants to keep in touch and exchanged phone and email details. Ummm... the very same day I was packing my things up in a moving van.
I really don't think my Mother is upset for me - she's upset for herself. She had a horrible relationship with my sisters former husband (which ended years ago but she is still hurt they never bonded) and she's always pinned her hopes of a happy MIL/SIL scenario on me providing it for her. It didn't matter what I went through, it matter what she wanted for herself, out of my relationship. And appears intent on still getting.
"It didn't work out for her, but look - he still wants to keep in touch with me!"
She's protected from hitting another low while I am swimming in it.