Should I Co-Parent, as Promised?

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Registered: 04-18-2014
Should I Co-Parent, as Promised?
Mon, 08-25-2014 - 6:50am

Okay, so I apparently have a situation and most say they cannot help me: I am pregnant and me and the father just officially broke up. At first, we agreed to get pregnant and co-parent if things did not work out between us. So, to fast forward a few months later, after he said harsh things to me (he has a history of calling me out of my name-bt not this time), I wanted an out. The baby is the only reason he talked to me any longer bt when he, in my words, said I'm a burden, I said the baby was not his. I lied because I needed to cut off communication and plus, he accused me of cheating when I had severe morning sickness. I picked up on his insecurity-thinking I was cheating- used it against him, and now he has finally fallen back, even though its just been like, 4 days. So, a few people were the reason we broke up and they are confused, saying he might find out one day so you may as well tell him. But in the same instance, they turn around and say not to tell him because he will run off with the child. I was personsally thinking of just waiting to see if he contacts me within the next month and if so, tell him then-I kno, what a shitty decision. And if not, then hey, it is what is.