An Update on Me (m)

Last night he came home and called me names. He was angry b/c the cop gave him a ticket for having no city sticker. He went down to the police station (I wasn’t there.) and the police officers basically laughed in his face and said something disrespectful to him.

He came home and started the whole speech about how if I would have married him by now, none of this wouldn’t have happened. Then he started calling me names. He said I was ignorant. He said all Americans are ignorant and since I am American I must be ignorant too. I went off on him and told him what a loser he was. I also am happy I got the chance to tell him he is a con artist. I told him his intentions were from the beginning is to gain citizenship in this country. I told him he is a big liar for not telling me about his status when we first met. Then he said, “I don’t have to be here tomorrow.” I told him he had to leave. I asked him if he understood. He started playing dumb again. I specifically told him he had to leave the apartment. I told him I don’t care if you leave the country, but you will leave here. He said he understood that. It must make him feel like a man to take his frustrations out on a woman.

He’s out of here! As of today, I will have “call control” on my home telephone. I a footing the bill for that and I will have a special code for making all outgoing calls. That means no more internet for him. Also the cable will be disconnected immediately. No more watching movies and the sports channel on my dime.

I told him to leave immediately. Not tomorrow—tonight. If all his stuff is not moved out by the time I get home, he will still have to sleep somewhere else. He is no longer allowed in my apartment. Also, he is no longer allowed to have contact with me. I am taking full precautions b/c my emotions are involved and this could end up escalating to violence. He’s never called me any sort of names before. I can tell things have gotten out of control. I am talking to everyone I know about this trying to get some support.

Right now it seems so terrible, but I know its not the end of the world.

-Spring