1 year later and she still has feelings for her ex
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|Sun, 06-10-2012 - 7:10pm|
My girl and I have been together for a year, its been a great relationship, shes a great girl and I love her a lot. We have very few problems aside from one that came up over the past week while she was on vacation. We got into an argument and tells me that she still has feelings for her ex. She says she has no desire to get back with him and shes more hurt than anything about how they broke up (because they were friends for years prior to dating). Her ex dumped her and vanished, never giving her an opportunity for closure. She had roughly 6 months of being single before she started dating me, but tells me that she doesnt love me like I love her and she has serious baggage taht I shouldnt have to deal with.
In response to this, I told her I decided to volunteer for deployment back to Afghanistan (I am military), she broke down crying and begged me to not go. She loves me but doesnt want to plan a future with me, this includes marriage and a family. I would like to try and work through this with her so we can actually have a healthy relationship but its been a year...how much longer SHOULD i hold out for her???
Please give me some advice...Her ex is completely out of the picture and impossible to track down, she wants him out of her head but apparently there are too many memories to rid of...this guy was a total tool and cheated on her too...what should I do???