Am I overreacting?

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Am I overreacting?
Mon, 03-19-2012 - 12:41pm


I’ve been in a relationship with a guy for 6 months now.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Mon, 03-19-2012 - 1:23pm
It sounds like he isn't very reliable when it comes to making plans and following thru on them. It also sounds like himself and his friends take priority over you. Yeah I'd be mad too if he said he was coming over to get you for a cookout and you had plans to eat together. But maybe since he didn't get home till 7:30, by the time he put his stuff away and took a shower it was probably pretty late and he was starving and just decided to make himself a hamberger. My H always comes home from work starving and he's really bad about it if supper isn't done by 5:30. He'll keep walking in the kitchen every 5-10 min, saying "I'm really hungry" I think most men are like babies when their hungry. I know mine drives me crazy when he is. lol
So does he give you a reason why he keeps canceling the plans?
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Registered: 02-24-2012
Fri, 03-23-2012 - 10:01pm
He's just not that into you. He'd rather be with his friends than you, and you can see that he has no regard for you by the way that he couldn't call you to tell you that he was running late. He's bdidng his time with you until he finds something better. Dump him and find someone who wants to be with you and won't jerk you around.
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Registered: 04-09-2012
Mon, 04-09-2012 - 7:11am
Maybe because it is the first 6 months he is still not coming to terms that he is in.a relationship! He should do, I know. But it now means he needs to know that in a relationship he should invite you along or prioritize a night with you instead. I would start going out with your mates as if he is not your priority, see how it makes him.feel. Jealous I bet. Then you can explain to.him how it's made u feel.

If he doesn't change then walk away whilst it's not a committed relationship.

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Registered: 01-30-2012
Tue, 09-11-2012 - 4:42pm

I think you were reacting, not OVER-reacting. From all you posted, this guy takes you for granted and does not set you high on his list of priorities. There doesn't seem to be any confusion there, that's just the way it is. If you like being treated like a doormat, stick around and wait until he leaves you for someone else. Otherwise, reevaluate your own value, assert yourself, and dump his ass. Just the humble opinion of a girl who does not take any crap from anyone.