Is it hopeless

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2012
Is it hopeless
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Sun, 01-22-2012 - 5:28pm

I am seeking impartial opinions from both ladies and gentlemen:

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
In reply to: jk7986
Sun, 01-22-2012 - 5:51pm

Jk, yes, it was very inappropriate.

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
In reply to: jk7986
Sun, 01-22-2012 - 9:49pm

Jk,

Clearly your husband is the problem. He's never cut the umbilical cord and he has no other model for parents so he thinks his mother's behavior is "normal."

He's either going to figure out he needs to put your first and treat you accordingly or not. If he can't do that with marriage counseling and grow a backbone now, he never will.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
In reply to: jk7986
Mon, 01-23-2012 - 12:10am

Why in the world did you even marry this man after the few holidays that were completely insane?

Your mother in law is nuttier than a fruitcake, and your husband is just as bad.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
In reply to: jk7986
Mon, 01-23-2012 - 1:24am
Time for him to cut the apron strings and tell mommy that he EXPECTS she treat YOU and your child with respect. I can't believe she just laid the baby face down on a dirty uneven table like that. Sounds like she has a few screws loose and your H needs to grow a pair and stand up for his family NOW. He needs to decide whether his priority is you and the baby or his mother.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
In reply to: jk7986
Mon, 01-23-2012 - 10:38pm
I am so sorry you have had to put up with this abuse alone. It is time to call a lawyer and get this over with. Your husband and his mother are destined to be miserable together forever, pushing away anyone else who tries to get close. Good riddance to that nasty old b****, and to your husband who has always taken her side. Yes, walk away. You tried the best you.could and even with a counselor spelling it out for him, he is unwilling to see. There is no more you can do. It is better that your child not be exposed to this amount of nasty evil.