Lied to for Entire Relationship...
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|Fri, 08-10-2012 - 2:19pm|
My boyfriend is a loving man. He is sweet, caring and not abusive. He is one of the best that I've dated. We have dated 22 months.
When we first started dating, he told me he worked at a hotel. He was always uninterested in talking about his work and very dismissive when it came to talking about mine partially because I think he was ashamed of his job. However, throughout our entire relationship he has been broke quite frequently. I am left paying for the majority of dates while when he does have money, he does pay for dates when he can. I let that slide. At the beginning of July, he became unemployed. That's not a big deal, as the job market is unstable. 2 weeks ago, I found a paycheck from May on his kitchen table that said GNC. I was suprised. All this time, I thought he worked at the hotel and I was wrong. I kept it to myself because I knew he was currently unemployed and just started collecting and I felt betrayed. I ended up confronting him and telling him that he lied about his job. He countered by saying I wouldn't date him if he didn't have a job and he didn't know how to tell me. He knew it was wrong but didn't want to ruin things. I had to explain to him if he really loved me he would have been forthcoming instead of waiting for me to get caught. I understand it's better to have a job in this economy than none at all, but there shouldn't be any reason to lie about something so stupid. I feel like he was a child who broke something and purposely hid it. What hurts me is that he didn't trust me enough, didn't love me enough to tell the truth. I feel that truth is love. I'm very torn about what to do because I do love him but there is no reason to lie about such a thing.
Long story short, should I stay with him and work through it?