A little afraid to hear it, but hoping for some straightfoward advice, please...

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Registered: 02-29-2012
A little afraid to hear it, but hoping for some straightfoward advice, please...
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Wed, 02-29-2012 - 9:57pm

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years and have lived together for two. We got together under less-than-perfect circumstances and had to struggle through a divorce on both sides and the sadness that goes along with that.

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Registered: 05-20-2009

You've never been with someone who's loved you the way that he can??? Cheating with at least two other women (that you know of, might even be more) is how he loves you?

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Registered: 02-15-2008

Hi newtattoo,

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Registered: 09-06-2007

I am afraid that he's already established a pattern of cheating.

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Registered: 09-17-2005
" I believe everyone can change for the better, when they want to. "

The answer is in your own words here - people will only change when they WANT to... your boyfriend has made it obvious he does not want to change, despite what he says, his actions speak louder than words. He is not going to change and unless you want to continue being cheated on, you need to leave.
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Registered: 09-21-2011

He sounds like a guy I know and have no contact with anymore. He sleeps around but because he & his lt gf are not married, in his mind it is not cheating. He cheated on her with me, and if I was in contact with him today, he would cheat on her at the first opportunity he had. Some men are just not into monogamy, and it sounds like yours is. If that is sometihng you can live with, then stay with him.

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Registered: 02-29-2012

Thank you all for your replies, I appreciate each of you taking the time to give me your advice!