PLEASE HELP

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Registered: 01-29-2012
PLEASE HELP
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Sat, 04-28-2012 - 7:02pm
Hello all,

I've be with this man for about 2 years. We get alone really good like the best of friends. Periodically he goes through this phase when he shuts me out when he under a lot of stress/pressure. He recently told me that he need space to clear his head. When I try to talk to him about it he says I'm pissing him off. I don't wanna keep goin thur the same thing with him. He acts so cold and nonchalant towards me. It's like he changed from my best friend to some one that doesn't care about me over night. I'm so confused
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Registered: 12-22-2007
In reply to: brooke100
Sat, 04-28-2012 - 7:52pm
Brooke, some guys are like this. While some men stay open about their issues and continue to be pleasant to be around, other men will shut up shop and exude all the personality of a rock when they have issues. Unfortunately, you've got one of the latter. I've heard it said that we shouldnt judge a relationship by its good times. Instead, we should judge it by how things are when they are bad. There are many relationships which still remain close even when bad stuff is happening. You now have a clear view of who he is and how he behaves when under stress. It's now up to you to decide if this acceptable. Personally, I'd break up and find someone who is still pleasant when stressed. Imagine being married to someone who shuts you out!!
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Registered: 01-29-2012
In reply to: brooke100
Sat, 04-28-2012 - 7:58pm
I understand what you are saying. I just want him to express to me his feelings. He really makes me question everything that I thought we had. He still texts and ask me what I'm doin but I'm just confused as to is this my way out and take it. I'm very impatient so this space thing is really killing me. I told him that I would still like communication between him and I but I think its best for me to try to let go and move on and he replied.. man if that what u wanna do then I understand. Confused
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Registered: 04-16-2008
In reply to: peaceyma
Sun, 04-29-2012 - 1:02am
Geez I would at last expect him to say "Can we talk about how we can work this out" He response was very non chalant and he showed no feelings over you 2 breaking up at all. In fact it sounds like he could care less. I'd say time to move on.