Together for 5 years and don't feel it anymore
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|Tue, 10-23-2012 - 11:17am|
I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now. Last December we moved in together and I didn't know how things would work out. A little back ground information. He is my first serious boyfriend and was the first guy I ever had sex with.
About 3 summers ago now I had amazing summer internship and he was just working a part time job. He was unhappy with his life and pushing me away. At this summer internship there was a guy that worked there and we start flirting and talking. Nothing ever did happen between the guy and me. He did text me once and my boyfriend found it and we did break up but only a few days. I decided to give my boyfriend another chance and to work things out. Because by this time we had either been dating 2 or 3 years and I didn't just want to throw it all away. But in someway I think maybe we should of just called it quites then. I have never done anything like this since, and I don't want to either.
But now he has complete changed after we moved in together. He is lazy and doesn't ever want to really do anything or even help me around our place. I ask him to help me clean and it doesn't get done. He could sleep awhole day away if he could. He thinks its okay to hide things from me, not like other women but alcohol and things that are wrong with him. About a month or two ago I found empty vodka bottles in his man cave. He said he was drinking them when he had bad shakes. A couple of months ago his body has start shaking and can shake all day at times. I finally lost it one night and told him that if he doesn't at least go to a doctor that I will leave no matter what. Because I can't take this anymore. He hasn't gone to the doctor yet, because he is waiting on his insurance from is new job. But now he seems to just drink the vodka when ever and I think he is become way too depent on it.
We hardly every have sex anymore and that is mostly because of me. I love him and I think I will always love him because he was my first, but I don't know if that is enough for me to stay anymore. We have been fighting all the time. We hardly even hang out with each other and when we do he sleeps. I don't know what to do. Someways I know its over and someways I just want to see about how to fix it. But I don't even know if this is fixable anymore. I feel like I'm losing myself and I don't like that.
Another reason it's so hard to decide is because my family and his family. Because we have been dating for so long its going to be hard to say good bye to some of his family memebers. Another reason we have also been having problems is because of his mom. His not a mom's boy or anything like that. But his mom seems to like his brother's girlfriend a little more then me. They do everything together and not once has she asked me to do anything with her or even invited me when those two do something. It bothers me a lot. I want to date someone who's mom doesn't treat me different.
I'm just looking for someone to give me some insight on what to do or anything. Thanks!