what should I do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-09-2012
what should I do?
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Mon, 04-09-2012 - 7:37am
I need to try and say this short as possible.
2 years with.my boyfriend. When I first met him he was always out with his mates, once I didn't get a tx all weekend. He always split the bill with me. I found this degrading, surely a guy should want ti pay on first few dates.
I saw girls he used to fancy, total opposites. Very pornographic looking. (this will all come together soon)
Anyway eventually he changed, he'd buy ne roses, chocolates and decorate my room in petals etc. So so sweet, he said he fallen in love with me. I put all his first actions down to being a single guy who didn't quite love me yet. Probably not sure if we'd be serious.

First thing I caught was a video if girls in things on youtube. He Said he. "came across it" anyway I moved on and he said off his own bk, he would never do that again.

That year my dad was dying, he helped alot through it so I understood he felt the pain too when eventually.my dad died right in front of me. Then...he went out with his mates a week later....unplanned....he didn't answer hid phone then eventually his phone would ring once then go answer phone. He Said he didn't pur phone down but batt died. He even swears this to this day. We got past this situation and went traveling soon after. Something I waited my whole life for, we had an amazing time but then he said he wanted to get bk for football season (he plays semi-pro football) so we only did just under 3 months, not the 6 months as planned. Plus whilst we were away he opened upto me about his money problems, in about £10,000 worth of debt which is another reason he wanted yo get bk. So I was hurt by these lies also

After 3 months of being bk I found another porn video on his phone, he was all sorry, dont know why I did it. Etc etc. It's just another lie though!

Recently he started a new job and went on training for a week. He mentioned who was on it, including two "16" yr old girls (that want the main subject) anyway he told me on the Friday he was going out on the Saturday, even though this was finally my weekend off he lady minute decided to go out with his work mates. I was like ok.no worries, I thought it we good for him to be with his new work mates. Later in night I received a call from him, really drink saying he was sick and waiting to feel better to get in taxi bk home. He was apparently at Tesco with his mate. Next thing he cones in an hour and half later stinking of alcohol and crashes out. His phone vibrated twice and he had two txs from unknown numbers, (the two girls off his course) obviously not 16 years old!!! And asking if he git bk ok. I rang them next day and they Said he was really drunk and his mate left so they took him bk in a taxi with them. I confronted him and he Said the girls decided to come out last minute and it was innocent. I believe he didn't cheat but I feel.upset because he didn't invite me out and it was my weekend off, he spent it with two other girls. Im confused, the day if his night out he left ne my easter egg with sweet card and roses.
Am I overreacting?

I still feel sad although we've talked and made up. I feel like the boring, with out "been there" girlfriend. I know I have alot if attention from guys, I think im pretty but im a totally devoted girlfriend, never drink and 100% honest. He seems to hold things bk now im starting to feel like being ruthless and lapping up my attention and going out every weekend. Maybe he might start to realise why he should want to take me out and not them!

Any advice?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-09-2012
Mon, 04-09-2012 - 7:37am
I meant to say he.never split the bill with me!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Mon, 04-09-2012 - 10:45am

I don't understand most of what you're complaining about.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 04-09-2012 - 11:17am

So basically it comes down to he went out to a bar one night w/o you & got drunk & there were some girls there.