10 years and sooo stressed...

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-03-2011
10 years and sooo stressed...
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Sat, 09-03-2011 - 2:22pm

This is my first time posting in a forum so I am apologizing beforehand if i post this in any way incorrectly.

My situation in a nutshell: I met my bf about 10 years ago when i was turning 17 and he was turning 19. In the beginning it was a very sexual relationship and we were very immature. I became pregnant 3 months later and needless to say, we didnt have much of relationship before my son was born. We have been living together since my son was one month old and bought a house together when my son was 3. We have always had petty fights but around the 6 yr mark we started fighting alot because i wanted to bring up marriage and he kept saying he wasnt ready. Eventually i had enough and we "broke up" even though we lived in the same house. I started talking to a man i liked before i dated my bf (4 text messages)and when asked about it by my bf, for some reason i spinned so many tales. I dont know y i didnt tell the truth. He found out and he was very hurt and i felt so guilty and vowed from that day on if he gave me another chance i wouldnt lie to him again.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Sun, 09-04-2011 - 12:37am

I don't think either one of you has grown up since you met 10 years ago.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-03-2011
Sun, 09-04-2011 - 12:11pm
Thank you for your reply, its nice to get an outside opinion, i need to clarify a few things i mistakenly omitted in my original post. I meant we didnt have much of a relationship time-wise because i got pregnant so soon, not that it was a bad relationship, it was great in the beginning, as all relationships are.

As far as breaking up after 6 yrs, i put it in parenthesis to try to convey that we weren't really broken up and how bad i had messed up. The lies i told were basically denying it all. Which i should not have done.

Also, my son does not know about what his father did, we have been very good to "behave" in front of him, except lately with our arguments, whichhave been stressing me out., along with my "flashbacks"

Unfortunately, neither one of us can afford the housepayment by ourselves.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2009
Sun, 09-04-2011 - 5:58pm

Im sorry about your situation.. I have been 40 years of my life and I learn so much about men for years.... all men sucks. Yes, all men do

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Tue, 09-06-2011 - 11:00am

You're doing what so many women do.