14 years now he needs a break?

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Registered: 09-11-2008
14 years now he needs a break?
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Fri, 09-12-2008 - 12:48am
I am feeling so lost, I had posted to another site, but posted here to for more insight. after 14 years & two continuous great weeks of
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Registered: 06-12-2008
Mon, 09-15-2008 - 11:22pm
You're just playing games. Take your things and tell him not to contact you. It's that simple. After that, you can start to heal. But if you're so adamant about getting your things, then just get them and be done with it.
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Mon, 09-15-2008 - 11:38pm

I am not playing games, I don't have a key. He expects me to finish packing my things thursay night, and put into storage, these are his terms.


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Tue, 09-16-2008 - 1:25am

I went back and reread your previous post about not answering his calls. That is what I meant by playing games. I meant you should have just picked up the phone and told him, "I want to set a date to get ALL of my things" and left it at that. I retract what I said, though. It's not game-playing, but prolonging what needs to happen: No Contact.

So, why don't you do just that. Tell him you want to pack your things--EVERYTHING--and be gone. If he insists on keeping some of the decor, say no. Tell him you paid for them and want to take them with you. Don't say anything about "If you want to date other people, I want my decor." Just say you appreciate him offering to buy them, but you really like them and they aren't for sale. Take a friend or something as a buffer. Just get your stuff and get out. He sounds like a pretty big jerk.

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Tue, 09-16-2008 - 2:28am

I don't

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Tue, 09-16-2008 - 10:08am

Hon, I have sympathy for you and your situation ... truly, I do ... as expressed in my first post.

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Tue, 09-16-2008 - 2:00pm

Thanks once again, its nice to hear from someone that can stand back & see things in a different light. This is one of the reasons I am trying very hard to tell his point of view, or what he has said, done or tells me.


I have not call him,

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Registered: 09-08-2005
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 3:54pm
hi helpsos, Im pretty much going through the same thing as we speak. My bf of 6 years broke up with me. He had been with me since he was 16 years old and is now 21 yrs old and wants to "live the single life" He mentioned to me that he was starting to feel sexual urges towards other women (isnt that great) and that he was feeling alot of pressure
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Registered: 01-12-2005
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 4:24pm

Oh honey, now he's really starting to play you for a fool.


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Tue, 09-16-2008 - 5:15pm
Thank for your sweet & kind words, you are wise beyond your years. I cried as I read your words, & I know you are right. We must move on. I just think I am overwhelm with so many other things going on in my life. I never seen it coming. I recently had surgery, got fire,because I file a report with EEOC about co-worker who continued to harass me. I move out from my roommates,( when he was unavailable to help that should of been a clue)move in to turn around & move out within a few weeks. So the timely was horrible. I am mentally crush. I can understand his needs, we are in our early 40's. I feel that he has only been in two relationship that was long term & I am one them. It good to hear how strong you are & that you are going forward. I agree if or when he calls, once he finds the grass is not greener on the other side. I to will not make myself available to him. I read in e-book www.HowDOIGetHimBack.com if he decides that he wants you back & is pressuring you for the relationship to go faster(like sex)you'll say this one sentence "You can have me when to buy me". I just thought that was interesting. I do believe that our ex- guys will not find any women that is better than us. They are only after p***y, as you had said. If they can manage that. Once they realize our love was true, & that we loved them along with their faults. Maybe than they will realize. As you had I said, I too hope that they learn that they made a mistake. Because we may not take them back.
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Tue, 09-16-2008 - 5:42pm

You are right.