14 years now he needs a break?

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Registered: 09-11-2008
14 years now he needs a break?
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Fri, 09-12-2008 - 12:48am
I am feeling so lost, I had posted to another site, but posted here to for more insight. after 14 years & two continuous great weeks of
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Registered: 09-11-2008
Wed, 09-17-2008 - 10:05pm
Thank you, heading there now.
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Registered: 09-08-2005
Thu, 09-18-2008 - 1:51pm

Hi helpsos, How are things going with u? How are you feeling? Unfortunately he called me yesterday about a bill he was having trouble with

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Registered: 06-12-2008
Thu, 09-18-2008 - 10:30pm

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Did it ever occur to you that maybe your ex doesn't want to be coddled like he is your child instead of an equal? He's 21 and it sounds like he had absolutely no responsibility or accountability in your relationship at all. While it's noble and really sweet of you to do all those things for him, it's really not healthy to take on the responsibilities (especially monetary ones) of a 21 year old. He doesn't want another guardian, and from your previous posts about how angry you are about his time he spends with friends, it sounds like you were acting as just that. By saying "he threw all that away...to be free with his friends," just proves you are trying to MAKE him mature. It doesn't work that way. I've told you this several times in my responses, but never seen you acknowledge it: HE'S TWENTY ONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You're faulting him for things he isn't even at fault for. Seriously, chalk it up to his naivete at 21 years old. That doesn't mean you should get back together with him any time soon. Wait until he grows up. You're trying to force him to do something he isn't ready (nor should he be) to do at all.

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Fri, 09-19-2008 - 3:45am

Well here is update, tonight was the night, that I was to finish packing the rest of my things. Kitchen

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Registered: 09-08-2005
Fri, 09-19-2008 - 9:40am
I never meant it like that. Thing is he would work almost 12 hours a day and since i was the one with the computer at work i would pay all the bills online, it was more convenient for me to handle that portion of our r'ship i guess. I know hes 21, its just he was always with his friends (I gave him alot of freedom and space, i had changed alot from how i used to be in the beginning of the r'ship) but that wasnt right or fair to me either and when i would confront him about it he would be
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Fri, 09-19-2008 - 1:07pm
Guys, let's remember to not hijack another iVillager's post.
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Fri, 09-19-2008 - 1:11pm

In addition to this:


Guys, let's remember to not hijack another iVillager's post.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 09-19-2008 - 1:12pm
Good for you for staying calm.
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Registered: 09-11-2008
Fri, 09-19-2008 - 1:46pm

Well, I needed to come after 4 pm, he was running late so

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 09-19-2008 - 2:27pm

I know you are hurt, but I think something is wrong with this picture: