16 years! Something is missing...Help.

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Registered: 12-30-2003
16 years! Something is missing...Help.
Tue, 12-30-2003 - 8:47pm
Hello....I have been married almost 16 years (second marriage)and we have drifted so far apart. It is like we just "exsist" in the same house...period. We used to be so close but now there is nothing, really. What can I do? I have tried to tell him how I feel, but he doesn't seem to get it. I know I still love him, but I don't feel "in love" with him anymore. I am very sad about that. My first marriage was very abusive and this one is nothing like that. It took me a long time to get use to a "normal" kind of marriage. He use to be very attentive and we use to talk and love...now it is nothing. He works, I work and that is all. I am 47 and want us to have something as we grow older. We have 8 kids between us. Only one left at home, she is 15, and four grandchildren, which is very trying too because two are from "his" daughter and the other two are from my son (1) and my daughter (1). But we only see the grandchildren from his daughter when the other grandparents are "busy". It is so complicated. I am really looking for someone to talk to about all this...it is making me crazy....is anyone out there that has any advice on my marriage??? I really love this man of mine and afraid that we won't last if this keeps up the way it is going. I am not worried about the grand kid stuff right now, I am worried about our relationship.....any advice?