2 soon 2b freaking out??

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Registered: 06-28-2007
2 soon 2b freaking out??
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Tue, 07-01-2008 - 3:37pm
I've been dating this guy for a month now. Things have been going well so far until this past sunday, I didn't talk to him at all.
Seriously Distressed
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Registered: 02-10-2004
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 3:57pm

Calm down!

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 4:44pm

Welcome to the board sexy_as_hell,


After a month of dating, as nicely as possible I would wonder why you are so attracted to someone that is in the position he's in?

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 6:21pm

You're acting ridiculous and desperate. Stop calling him so often, if he doesn't answer your call after one call, leave a message and DO NOT CALL AGAIN.

He's entitled to bad days. Dating him only a month I doubt he wants to let you in to his bad days yet as a source of comfort. That takes a huge amount of trust that hasn't been built up yet.

You seriously need to stop with all the calling or the texting, or any self-respecting man will leave. It is obsessive behavior that should set off someone's warning signals. Go out and do your own thing more often, don't wait around for him. You have your own life to live and he has his.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 9:23pm

It's not a good idea to chase anyone. If you put in a call and he doesn't respond, you need to give him space. If he wants to talk to you, he will. If you keep after him, he will feel suffocated and pursued. It takes time to know who a person is and how well he can sustain a relationship. Some guys can't take too much intimacy. If he's not calling, he's not. Realize that he's not that available and take a deep breath and let it be. Move on. Let him take the lead and if he doesn't, realize it's not your fault, but something inside of him that he can't handle now.


All good wishes,

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 07-02-2008 - 5:37pm

Welcome to the board,


I think with all the stress he is feeling right now that it is only making it worse for you to call him over and over and over again. Give him some space.