On a 2-week break and confused
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On a 2-week break and confused
| Sat, 03-15-2008 - 1:18pm |
Hello, for the past couple of months, my boyfriend of over 3 years and I have been having major issues--he started acting really

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Age old saying, actions speak louder.
In NC, you learned about yourself and i am sure he too must have learnt.I believe NC is answer to all questions, in all kind of R.But what i hate is when you learn about R because of someone and then that someone is not there with you.I would not even like to apply my knowledge on someone else! makes sense? In my experience,if i did that , that person was not even worth a bit of effort and you end up hating everyone.( fortunately my current R is going smooth as of now:))
not much advice.he will give you a chance,i hope!
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Does that make sense? When I meet up with him, I really just want to show him that I can be my cool, calm, fun self without getting upset once we start talking about anything relationship-related. I'm hoping to explain all this to him and say that he and I both want drama-free lives and that I know he doesn't want to marry someone with lots of drama/conflict but that I don't see myself being that way after all that I've learned and after being in a stable, committed relationship like a marriage. Anyone have thoughts/advice?
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I am worried about you, but I think that you are going to put yourself in a difficult and painful position.
Thanks for your thoughts. I actually already feel a lot better and so much more "chill" if that makes any sense. Maybe it's because I stopped that pill or maybe it's because I just decided that I didn't have my own life, my own self during those drama-filled times--I was totally consumed by the relationship and that is what I think lead to the drama. I am realizing more and more that I don't always act that way and when I think about how the relationship was during the conflict-free times (and there were loong stretches of those), I was
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