3rd in line behind kids and ex

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Registered: 08-13-2007
3rd in line behind kids and ex
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Wed, 06-01-2011 - 9:02pm

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Wed, 06-01-2011 - 10:35pm
I fully understand your position and it comes with the territory of dating with kids and ex involved. Don't lose your bf over something like this just try to communicate and stay in there because it's a complicated situation. I do believe if your kids father was more supportive and relevant then you would understand his position as it relates to the mother. A father said this to me that it's the kids interest he us protecting no matter what the mother does he loves his kids and will do what's best even if it means minus you. Honestly, I respect a guy like that. I think you should respect that to because I don't think he is putting you second I think he is putting the kids first.
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Thu, 06-02-2011 - 12:25am

Six to nine months is the "make it or break it" time in a relationship.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Thu, 06-02-2011 - 1:44am

I think it's unhealthy for him to want you to form a relationship with his kids.

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Thu, 06-02-2011 - 11:37am

My thought w/ regard to the visitation schedule is that's between him & his ex.

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Thu, 06-02-2011 - 12:06pm

Yes the calling his kids thing is very weird. They should be kept out of it until your relationship becomes more serious.

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Registered: 08-13-2007
Wed, 06-08-2011 - 1:29am

Thanks everyone.

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Registered: 08-13-2007
Wed, 06-08-2011 - 1:31am
No he has never expected me to take his kids without him, he just wants me to spend time with his kids without mine because I will get to know them better without my kids distracting me
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Registered: 08-13-2007
Wed, 06-08-2011 - 1:38am
what is a real relationship when there are kids involved? I think that its hard...right? He actually doesnt need me to entertain his kids, he wants the 4 of us to just spend time together getting to know each other. He is an excellent father. he said that he will not let his ex interfere anymore, I believe him but actions speak louder. Its just that I feel guilty becausre Im calling him out on things and I feel like all is changing between him and his ex and kids because he has fallen in love with me otherwise he would be even more accomodating to his ex and her wishes.So I feel like the mean GF