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4 weeks ago today
| Wed, 01-28-2004 - 12:59am |
my husband of 12 years left me. I am not sure how this happens without seeing it coming. He has been saying somethings that have allowed me to get my hopes up like he does miss me and he is not totally sure it is over. On the other hand, right now more than likely it is over. He calls me with little things and talks to me just like he always has (never about our relationship), but about other things going on in life. I am not sure how to treat him, because I am so sad and so angry. I don't want to make him glad he left me but I am not good at hiding my pain either. He has even mentioned that he has no desire to date and even thinks it would be awkward to be with someone else. He has also softened just a little bit compared to what he was like when he first left. Does he really know what he wants or is he just having a hard time letting go? I would love to hear from someone who has gone through this and their marriage survived. Can a marriage be saved if one spouse says the love is gone? He said that maybe someday he will be able to tell me what happened when he sorts it all out. Besides his change in feelings, the other he has mentioned more than once is all the bad choices we've made. But that took two. I wish I could "emotionally detach" myself from him!
Mary Beth
Mary Beth

How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together: Breakthrough Strategies to Resolve Your Conflicts and Reignite Your Love by Sue Ellen Page
It's hard when he's leaving you hanging, yet still talking to you like an *old friend* and being unwilling to go to counseling (?) to see if things could be worked out.
Carrie