on & off for 4 years??
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on & off for 4 years??
| Mon, 10-13-2008 - 11:35pm |
I met my current boyfriend when I was 15, Weve been through so much in the past 4 years. I found out my grandfather had cancer while we were together and then he passed away,, he was close to my grandfather too. His father ended up passing away in a car accident due to a drunk driver while we were together also

I think you should leave this "relationship". You're easily getting duped by him. He gets to have a part-time relationship with you where whenever he wants to sleep with someone else, YOU LET HIM.
This relationship is not good, it doesn't have what it takes to survive in the long run (loyalty, faithfulness). You are fooling yourself to think that this one could ever last and make you happy. You are very very young to stick yourself with this kind of treatment, when you leave this guy for good I want you to be extremely careful not to accept this kind of treatment again because we really do have a tendency to seek out the behavior we're used to from men in our past.
Don't put it off, do it today. There are people who love you and want the best for you, please listen to them.
Welcome to the board andi92889,
You do deserve better. You've proved to him that other than a short break of not seeing each other there are no consequences for him cheating and lying to you.
Sometimes when a parent times, the child begins to act like the parent who passed away, as a way of keeping them close. He was acting out like his father, and even saying that he was single as his father was. It's good that things are getting better. Sounds like the two of you do love each other, and as you also mentioned, you were both so young when you met. Give him a chance. Give yourself a chance. If the pattern begins to repeat once again, tell him that he needs to go to a therapist to understand what's behind it and how to become in charge of his life. Insist that he do this, if he wants the relationship with you. Sometimes it's possible to outgrow a pattern like this by oneself, other times some help is needed. But do give him a chance and also remember to include some professional help if it becomes necessary.
Best wishes,
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