5 Year old relationship
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5 Year old relationship
| Mon, 07-28-2008 - 4:40am |
I am 28 and am from a muslim family, but i am an atheist.I think myself as open minded...but actually I think I am not really that open.5 years ago I met a gal in the net.we talked a lot and both liked each other.I told we would only be friends, as i was not ready for marriage at that time, so rejected to meet her.Thought we mee,she would get more attracted..But she fell in deep love for me,started calling me and was desperate to meet me.this continued for 2 years.then she started to say things like she will finish her life or become a slut.One day she went to a guys room alone and almost got raped.she came back and then told me see what i am into...now stop me if u can.(All my friends say that she is emotionl.y blackmailing me).So i was really hurt as I liked her very much and met her and gave her company to stop her from playing with her life.I fuelt guilty that because of me she is trying to get into dirty life.We are too close and after a month we had sex ( i found her virgin) we had this relation for about a year.She started to pressure me for marriage...but at that time i was not prepared for it.I told her to wait..but her family was pressuring her to get married.So we almost stopped meeting .maybe once a month or less than that.After 6 monthsOne day she suddenly called and told me that don't contact me anymore, I am seeing another guy and I want to marry him.I was kinda lost as I felt that I really love her.She even told me that she slept with him thrice.I found out that the guy was jobless...vagabond type.She told me that she doesn't have any value for her life anymore and wants to destroy it.I really felt guilty and stopped her and brought her back from that relation and i took her to my family.But my family never agreed to this relationship and in our culture,we had to go through family to get married.we didn't want to hurt families.I tried a lot to convince my family but the denied.I told her...please be patient..I will convince my family soon.But she again stopped talking to me.Suddenly after 4 months I found out that she met some guy in the bus and started dating him.the guy was kinda really religious and she wanted to marry him as she was also trying to get religious.But actually the guy was not as he showed himself.He touched her body, made her to rub his organ and even kiss his penis and wanted to sleep with her.but she rejected.the gals parent totally disagreed to let her marry in a religious fundamentalist family like that and I talked to her dad and he told me to bring her back from that religious brainwashed state.I am trying my best to do that.Problem is...though I told her that i forgave her for all she did.But the things like someone made love to her while i was in love with her,someone touched her

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Sorry you are going through this.
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