6 mo pregnant and fob brokeup with me.

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Registered: 12-30-2006
6 mo pregnant and fob brokeup with me.
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Mon, 03-26-2007 - 10:29pm

im new here sorta i posted on and off cause me and my fob would breakup then get back together..he broke up with me today and a month of being together again(though we have been together over 4 years) he was going through my phone text messages while i was in the tub(we dont live together but he came over last night) and there was a text in there that i had mean to send him but instead it got sent to someone else. it was pretty obscene i was saying in the text(meant for him but i hadnt seen him in like a week so i was being sarcastic in the text) to come see the pregnant white girl for some p***Y for some dinero. so now he thinks i was sending that to someone else it went to a classmate of mine jamie she had text me as i was texting him and it ended up getting sent to her and not him...me not knowing this i thought he got the text so i figured thats why he came over but he never did get it and now he thinks i sent a text to someone saying that and i tried to explain it to him the truth but he said its over now i dont know what to do i feel guilt hurt confused upside down just when i thought me and him where building our relationship up again its torn apart and through my fault sorta and i just dont know how to feel i cry im numb im in shock. im thinking of seriously considering moving from here and tennesee and going back to cali where im from theres just too many memories here or will they eventually pass i mean i like it here but my whole reason for being here and moving here in the first place was for him any advice sorry if the letters weird its hard to get my thoughts types out the way i want to say them any suggestions and hes pretty stubborn and headstrong so im sure he wants nothing to do with me or reconcilliation in a new break up we all have that wish of reunite but mine is gone

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 11:46am

vanillasupreme,


You mentioned that you have broken up six times already. Have you ever worked on the issues that are causing your breakups? It seems like there isn't much trust in the relationship. If you want to get back together with him, than ask him to go to couples counseling with you so you can worth through these problems.


If you really want to move than do it. However, you have to think about your baby and the fob. Will he be upset that you are moving away? How will your child feel it is doesn't know his/her father.


I think it would be a good idea to see a lawyer about your options concerning child support and child custody.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 1:16pm
As a future mother it is time for you to grow up and make some serious decisions about your life. What is best for the baby? The immature text games you are playing and the fact that you broke up several times leads me to believe that some real changes need to be made. Who is in California? Does your ex want to be involved in his child's life and if so will he make a good father and role model.