7 years and we broke up , help
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7 years and we broke up , help
| Mon, 03-19-2007 - 1:45am |
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Edited 3/20/2007 1:46 am ET by heartbroken77
Edited 3/20/2007 1:46 am ET by heartbroken77
| Mon, 03-19-2007 - 1:45am |
He was TXT her on the cell and I found it. She lied to me about it. She woudl not tell me if they were together and it drove mem nuts. I was doing ok until this happended. It all made sense to me the last month we were together. She was leaving on the wekends and not coming home until sunday. She says shes was at her friends, now I know differently. I hurt because of this, it sucks. I try to call her and ask her but so says its none of my business. What does this mean? I wanted to remain friends so I could still be a part of her life. I told her if she was with him I could not do that. This was two days ago and she will not take my calls or answer my emails. How can I get her back?
To be honest, I wouldn't recommend you trying to get back together. And as it looks like she's comfortable with ending the relationship, I'm not sure there's anything you can do anyway. It would appear that the two of you have some serious incompatibility issues going on here, she's recognised it and moved on. Besides that, you're at a stalemate with neither of you willing to concede regarding the issue of her male friend.
Even if you were to get back together, the issue of her not trusting you and disappearing for the weekend would most likely still be an issue and you'll find yourself back at this same point before too long.
However, if you really want her back, you'd have to accept her disappearing over the weeknd...her lack of being honest about this male friend...her jealousy and insecurity and dislike of your mates. Is this really what you want for yourself?
Personally, I think you could find someone far more compatible with you.
Heartbroken
I am sorry you are going thru this. Understandable she is in a rebound relationship.
Right now you need to consentrate on healing yourself and moving on.
The only way to get her back is to let her go, give her space and if its meant to be she will be back. But as long as your contacting her, begging or pleading she wont. You need to work on yourself. We love someone because the way they make us feel about ourself. You made her feel bad about herself. You need to take this time out to realize this and work on treating her better in the future once you two have had some space. She probably has a lot of resentment built up because of this and she needs time to get over it.
I know I may sound harsh but I mean no harm and know how you are feeling and wish you the best.
Welcome to the board heartbroken.
It's very hard to move on because of everything that has happened and everything that you feel.