8 Years Later and Still Waiting
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| Thu, 09-09-2004 - 8:54am |
We were going to move in together last year, but he decided he wasn't really ready and that I should get my own place first and live on my own (I was still living with my parents). So I did and I love it. Our relationship is good, we get along great, he treats me well, although lately we haven't been spending much time together.
He just bought a new car after not having one for over a year and he's planning on buying a house next summer and starting grad school. All of this says to me that he isn't thinking of getting engaged or buying a ring.
I want to take him out to dinner and directly ask him what he really wants. I want to move things forward, but if he doesn't I think the best thing to do maybe is to separate or take some time apart, which is not what I want to do.
But I wonder should I give up his companionship because he doesn't want the same things, or hang in there until he's ready. I'm so stumped on this one.
Opinions, please.

Read them, it may help you to re-group.
Good luck.
1 - What does a committed relationship and marriage mean to you?
2 - What do youhave to have accomplished in life BEFORE making the committment of marriage?
Its virtually impossible to reach a compromise until both people clearly state their answers to the questions above.