Acting Out or Just Acting?

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Registered: 01-24-2004
Acting Out or Just Acting?
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Sat, 01-24-2004 - 2:46am
Here's an unusual situation that has me in an emotional tailspin. My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years is an actor, and was recently cast in one of his first productions. It's a racy (but legitimate) play with very strong sexual overtones. In it, he has to intensely kiss three people, one of whom he has to grope. He also appears completely naked on stage, and is naked under the sheets with one of the other actresses during one seen.

The problem is, I'm jealous. From the start of our relationship, we agreed on monogamy. And while this isn't like he's cheating on me, I still feel like he has to sacrifice something that I don't. I know deep down that he doesn't have real feelings towards them, but he has admitted that he found it exciting at first, and that he found at least one of his co-stars attractive.

The show will be running for the next two months. Meanwhile, I'm studying for and taking the bar exam in a month, and rarely see him. He holds another job, and is exhausted after rehearsals. As a result, we haven't had sex in a month. He has plenty of other things on his mind, and this is the last thing he feels like talking about. But the thought of him kissing other women while I'm home alone on Valentine's Day, and while I'm celebrating after the bar exam drives me crazy! He thinks I'm overreacting and being irrational. Sometimes I think maybe I am, too; other time I feel like I have a right to want justice or an apology. I love him dearly, but I feel neglected and jealous, and I don't know what to do. Please help!

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Registered: 01-24-2004
Sat, 01-24-2004 - 2:52am
If you are really bothered by this, I would have a talk with your bf just to get your feelings out in the open. BUT don't expect him to give up this part since you did know about this possiblity coming into the relationship!