ADD/ADHD and The Platonic Friend
Find a Conversation
| Tue, 10-19-2004 - 12:09pm |
I have ADD/ADHD and I am sure that I can be difficult to work with, but I did not expect things to end like this.
At any rate, during our series of arguements, she confessed to me that her male friend who I have met and on some level have interacted with is someone she dated before me. She has stated a couple of different things about the level of their relationship (from "no sex" to "why don't you ask him"). She states that it only lasted three months.
At any rate it also came out that she happened to spend the part of an evening at this guy's house and this evening happened to be the day before all Hell broke loose. To make matters worse, she has talked to him about our relationship, my ADD/ADHD and our plans to marriage - accroding to her even telling her that I was "stalling".
Even after we spent some time together a few days ago, she still went to his place for a pro football game party. She claims that nothing is going on and that he has always respected our relationship. And also since she is no longer with me (she loves me but "she needs space"), I cannot choose here friends. she has aplogized, but saw nothing wrong with not telling me about their realtionship before all Hell broke loose.
To posisbly make matters worse, I am in a state of flux trying to woo her back and at the same time feeling betrayed. I just sent flowers (Sheesh!)
What can be made of all this.

I think your best bet is to stop having contact with her altogether, but let her know before you break off contact that you are open to working things out IF and only if she will go to counseling with you. It sounds like the two of you have many issues to work through if you're going to get back together.
Sheri
::At any rate it also came out that she happened to spend the part of an evening at this guy's house and this evening happened to be the day before all Hell broke loose. To make matters worse, she has talked to him about our relationship, my ADD/ADHD and our plans to marriage - accroding to her even telling her that I was "stalling".
She did betray you. She shared intimate/emotional things with this guy ABOUT YOU. Instead of discussing the issues with you and low and behold right after talking to him, the two of you break up.... I wonder what was said between them.
Personally, I'd let her go and heal your heart.
Carrie