Addicted to porn

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Registered: 09-17-2004
Addicted to porn
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Fri, 09-17-2004 - 8:55pm
My husband is addicted to porn and erotica. We haven't been married for very long, and I hadn't noticed that he'd been looking at anything up until the last month or so. Now, quite often, I come home to see the history on my browser filled with porn sites and erotic literature. Needless to say, this bothers me very, very much. I have voiced my opinion many times on this subject and told him how it makes me feel and each time he promises never to do it again. Unfortunately, his promises never stick and I'm continually sent through the motions of hurt and jealousy. I try not to get so angry about it, and say it's just a little porn, but this is really hurting our relationship. It's making me feel less desirable and dissatisfied. We are great friends and our home life is perfect, except for this one problem. What should I do about this? Should I approach him about it in a certain way? Am I over-reacting? I'd really appreciate some advice. Thanks.
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Registered: 08-16-2004
Fri, 09-17-2004 - 11:29pm
I have never had this problem with a boyfriend of mine so Im only telling what I would do if i ran across this situation in my relationship. I would approach him and ask him how he would feel if I(you) was doing it. What it is about the porn that attracts him and what you can do to make him attracted to you like he is to the porn. That is all that I can think about right now but if I think of something else I will write you again.

Hope This Help,

Lindsey

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 09-19-2004 - 2:07am

is he really 'addicted' ? does he spend time and money that he doesn't have on porn? does this affect YOUR sex life? is he into kiddie porn?


i think that people are different in their attitudes toward porn. most men are more visual than most women. for most men - looking at porn is just looking at porn - its not taking away from their feelings toward the woman they love.