adult sibling jealousy

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Registered: 05-17-2007
adult sibling jealousy
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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 10:31pm

I am a younger sibling to my sister who is 8 years older. I am 20. My sister and I did not speak for 7 years and have recently begun a relationship. I am VERY jealous of her friends as I yearn for her attention. I want her to be around me, but I feel she doesn't want to and is only spends time with me because we are sisters. Kind of like it is an obligation.

I wish she made time for me and understood how much I want her attention,approval, love and friendship.

What do you think?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 9:52am

I think you may want to think about counseling for your self-esteem and jealousy issue. This isn't something your sister can solve for you. It isn't her fault that you think she's only with you out of obligation. This is something within you that you should look into and talk over with a professional so that it doesn't sabotage your relationship with your sister or bleed over into other aspects of your life (work, love relationships, etc.).

If you'd like, in the meantime, I have some information that I can send to you regarding jealousy. It mostly pertains to romantic jealousy, but I'm sure it could be applied to sibling jealousy as well.

You can e-mail me through my iVillage profile if you're interested.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 5:52pm

Welcome to the board celeb86,


Tell your sister that you value your relationship with her and that you would love to be able to spend more time with her.


I agree with blondie that counseling could also do you good.


Also, my sister and I hated each other growing up. But now we talk pretty much everyday and do lots of things together. So don't give up hope.


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