Advice?

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Registered: 03-08-2008
Advice?
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Tue, 08-19-2008 - 12:43pm

Lately it feels like the relationship I have with my boyfriend,

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Registered: 04-25-2008
In reply to: skchica2005
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 1:20pm

Hi skchica,


Sorry you are feeling like this! You didn't go into much detail about how he has all the control, so I will try my best to answer with the info you have given. The way to maybe take back a little control to balance it at 50/50 would be to be less avaliable and make plans with your friends or do an activity without him. I think the easiest way is to start saying no to him and make him come to you a little. When you become less avaliable, men tend to try harder (if they really care) to make plans, so in essence, you have a little bit of the control back. Could you maybe go into more detail of some examples of his control?? I would like to help you a little more if I could and give you my two cents. xoxoxo

Sara

"Seek to understand and you will be understood"

Sara

"Seek to understand and you will be understood"

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: skchica2005
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 2:12pm

Welcome to the board skchica2005,


I will need a few examples of how you feel he's in control and how things are on his terms before I can answer.


I will recommend you read the book: Are You the One for Me? by Barbara DeAngelis - it should help.





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