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| Sun, 03-11-2007 - 8:16pm |
Hi there,
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years - he is 26 and I am 24. Everything is great and we are best friends as well as very in love. Last November I went away for a girls weekend which was fantastic, and I came home on the Sunday to a confession from my boyfriend that he had gotten extremely drunk and slept with an english tourist. He was in tears and extremely remorseful. Obviously I was gutted and angry and all of those emotions, but in some ways it brought a positive change in our relationship. We were both booked to go to Korea to teach English in January and I canceled my ticket and told him to go on his own. I felt he needed to find himself and have some single time to sort out his own life direction. We found a new honesty and a new respect for each other. One of the few issues in our relationship is that I am highly successful and he runs his family farm. This is entirely through choice and we have never ever argued about it - he is completely supportive about my job. But I have felt he has been 'lost' without his own direction at times and isn't following his own career goals.
I have a fantastic job and a good degree. It is recognised that I am in a position that most other people my age would not cope with and I am driven to succeed. HOWEVER, I really want to travel and take a few years out. I feel like now is a good time for me to do it. My boyfriend has now been gone 3 months and we miss each other dearly and I would love to join him in June to continue both our relationship and our travel plans
My heart tells me I'm doing the right thing by going to him and to a new exciting place, but my sensibilities tell me to stick it out in my job. I have people giving me advice from every angle - work, friends and family, but I guess the right answer is the one that I believe in! What I wonder is, how does it seem from an outside perspective - reader what would you do?
Anyway if anyone has even made it to the end of this - thank you for reading and please let me know your thoughts! I'd love to hear similar stories :)

Hi gal_loren,
Well, I personally would stay at the job. I would do this though because I want a family and because I want to be able to support the family finanically and I am very "tight" with money and just wouldn't be able to take it if I quit my good paying job to travel for a couple years. However, that is me and we are two different people. Do what you think is best for you and what will make you happy.
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