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| Sat, 04-24-2004 - 2:20pm |
just wanted to get some advice about something that has really been bothering me. I am 21 and have been dating the same guy for 5 years. He is 2 years older and graduated college last spring. He has not been able to find a good job so he is now going to grad school 1000 miles away. We have done long distance the whole time we've been together since he went to college when i was in high school, and then when i went to college, so this isnt really a problem. However, he is trying to find a place to live where he is going to school and he can't find anything that isnt less than 500 a month, except this one house. The catch is that there will be another male grad student AND a female student living there. I am completely uncomfortable with the idea of him living with another woman, and the thought just makes me sick. I have told him how i feel but he doesnt understand why i'm so upset. He says i just dont trust him, but who would be completely trusting if their boyfriend was 1000 miles away living with another woman? I don't even have my engagement ring yet, but even if he did give me the ring before he left I wouldnt be okay with it. Engagements can be broken, and I don't want to even put myself out there for that kind of heartbreak. I just don't know what else to do, I know I will be miserable all year long and I will be suspicious and unhappy whenever we talk. Its not set in stone that he will live there, but it looks like a good possibility. What would any of you do?

i agree with jad. cheating is not about opportunity. people cheat even if they live in same-sex dorms, and people DON'T cheat even when they have the "opportunity". it depends on the individual.
did you always have this trust problem? has he ever cheated on you?