Advice Please

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Registered: 04-25-2004
Advice Please
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Sun, 04-25-2004 - 9:18pm
Been with the same person for 8 years, married in December (of this year) and had an affair. It was planned and there are no excuses whats so ever, what is next...
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Registered: 04-22-2004
In reply to: bailey620
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 7:50am
It would be somewhat helpful with a little info. I take it you had the affair ? One thing you should do is explore why you had it. Start with yourself. ask why u felt a need to and what it was that you are missing. Look at your spouse, is there something missing ? An affair is never about who it is with but why. You have 2 options, honesty with your spouse about whats missing, communicate and fix the problem. You should read on infedelity. Trust me, an affair will come back to haunt you if you dont deal with this now, I am not saying you should tell your spouse, but do you think its fair ? Would you like it if your spouse had an affair ? God I wish I had talked to my wife 4 years ago before i did that 1 night thing because i am paying for it now,, Good Luck