Advice -re-evaulating relationship
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Advice -re-evaulating relationship
| Sun, 04-25-2004 - 11:52pm |
I'll try not to make this a novel - Been in almost 5 year relationship, lived together (not married) for the past 2 - just bought a house. Well for whatever reasons I am really questioning where all this is going. I'm not saying I want marriage, not sure what I think on that, but at the same time the current situation seems not to be what I want. He doesn't want marriage "right now" due (he says) to his poor financial situation, but I think there's more. He's extremely nice and does a lot for me, but also is a bit unemotional (he has NEVER in 5 years has said "I love you" except one time when I sort of coaxed it out of him. That is a bit scary but he says its more what he does than just saying a few words (???) And I think if hypothetically he were to ask me to marry him, right now I don't know 100% I would say yes because I honestly think he really does not want it and would just be doing it for me (cause that is a pattern with him) Sorry to ramble but I am really not sure why all of the sudden I am starting to question all this. I don't want it to end but how do I bring this up so I get his honest answers? (He really has this thing about wanting me to be happy and a lot of times I think he tries to answer or talk more that its what I want to hear over maybe what he really thinks)

If not, it's time for a change.
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
Carrie