Advice on what to do

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Advice on what to do
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Wed, 03-19-2008 - 1:29pm

I kinda need some help on a situation that I am hoping you guys could help me on. There is this guy that I have been on a few dates with that I really seem to like.The dates that we have been on we have held hands and kissed. Innocent fun. I asked him the other night what he thought about me. Ya know cause

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 2:31pm

Welcome to the board kristen024,.


Believe him when he says he's not ready for a relationship.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 2:40pm

Welcome to the board kristen024,


There is nothing wrong with continuing to get to know him. However, not count on anything serious developing from it. Just continue to have fun and keep your options open for now.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 3:39pm

What he's saying is, let's go real slow and don't build up any expectations. Clearly, he likes you a lot, but he's also scared and feels not ready yet. If you can just let things be on their own and enjoy things for what they are, they may develop naturally. Or, they may not. It's up to you. Are you able to be in a situation where you are not sure where things will go? Everyone wants some certainty and I understand this may be hard. Why not set a time limit for how long you are willing to just explore. If you like each other and things are going well, it's a good idea to give it some time. If things do not develop the way you want them to, at that time, you can take a deep breath and let go.


All good wishes,