Is Affection important??
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Is Affection important??
| Mon, 04-01-2013 - 7:13pm |
My husband is not affectionate. Never initiates kissing me,touching me, hugging ect... This makes me feel bad. I wanted to know am i the only one that thinks affection is important in a relationship? I want other womens opinions if this is important? If your spouse is not affectionate does it make you feel bad or are you ok withour having it. I do not think i am a needy person, but he makes me feel like there is something wrong with me because i need affection
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Yes I also think it's important. I'm not in a relationship now but when I was in one, I'd probably feel neglected if I never got any affection. The problem is when 2 people in a couple have different needs & desires as far as affection goes. Was he always this way or is it something new?
Affection is important to me, I don't think I would last long in a relationship with someone who wasn't affectionate. Was your husband affectionate in the past? Did you not care about affection when you married him but now you want it? In other words, what changed? For how long have you been married/with him?
I think almost anyone would say that affection is very important in a good relationship. However, each person has a different amount that they would say they need or require. A lack and especially a total lack of affection from one party can often times be a sign that there is something wrong in the relationship.
is a flame important for a candle to burn and give its great smelling scent?
the answer is of course
so yes affection is more important then actual sex...........
I was married to a man like that, and it took me several years to figure out that his mother was a very cold and unaffectionate woman. She never hugged him or kissed him. We were from the old school, and there was no sex before marriage, so I didn't really notice it too much. Once we got married, if I even touched him he would pull away. Forget an innocent kiss........I finally figured out that since he had no affection growing up, he didn't know the difference between affection and sex, and he thought if I touched him I was looking for sex. I was married to him for 20 years and it never changed. You might try counseling, but if he's like most men, he won't go.......so go yourself, and learn how to deal with it, or maybe learn that you shouldn't stay in the marriage. I'll bet no one in your husband's family is touchy feely or affectionate......that's how he grew up.