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After 20 years, you'd think he knows me!
| Sun, 08-29-2004 - 11:36am |
Hubby knows that I like to win. I usually get angry when I don't, but have been trying to control that, to let it go. But when we play cards he has to rub it in when he wins. And then doesn't get, why I explode. We've been married over twenty years and he still doesn't know what buttons to avoid pushing ( or doesn't care ). Here I am trying to change my faults and in return I get no effort on his part to make it a little easier on me. At this point the only solution I can come up with is to stop playing cards with him, even though this is a big part of our social activities with friends. What else can I do?
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| Sun, 08-29-2004 - 3:46pm |
Hon, he does know what buttons to push, he knows he'll get a reaction from you - that's why he does it. Exactly like a ten-year-old. No offense but you two sound like a couple of kids, not a mature married couple. Yes, you should stop playing card games if neither of you can treat it as a game. Games are supposed to fun, and how fun is it if you get angry, and he wants to see you behave that way? But really, this is not about winning and button pushing. This is about your unresolved anger issues, and his passive aggressive behavior (a cover for his anger). And it's not the card games that are the cause. That's what you should be exploring through couples counseling.
