after 5 years, no sex...:???

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-12-2012
after 5 years, no sex...:???
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 4:32am
Ok. i really don't know any 28 yr olds who are abstinate. Idk about giving up sex... He has given himself to Jesus. We have been together for 5 years, and now he doesn't want to have sex....well not untill marriage. Does that mean I'm supposed to not want it? I mean didn't Jesus die for our sins. I will pray with him after if he would like to to save our souls. I know many couples who go to church together, and they still make love to one another.. I can totally do it, i'm just saying am i missing some deeper reason for the lack of passion in this relationship? idk. am i crazy for feeling this way???
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 9:46am

Theoretically, most religions forbid sex outside marriage.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 11:38am

I think it totally makes sense if he did become a born again Christian (or something similar) and decided to stop what he views as sinning--i.e. having sex outside of marriage.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 6:48pm

No, you're not crazy for feeling this way.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 7:44pm

The switch can be upsetting.