Aftermath of wrong accusing-Dr & Members
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Aftermath of wrong accusing-Dr & Members
| Tue, 03-13-2007 - 12:57pm |
I am uncomfortable with my husband's relationship with another woman. He met her in his online class and met her in person while on business for three weeks out of town about 9 months ago. They are still in the same online classes and talk every day. She has recently talked about coming to see him. She knows he is married (at least now). I don't need opinions on is he a cheater/ isn't he a cheater. I am letting him know that after classes are over in two months, I don't want him to speak to her anymore because I think they had sex and even if they didn't I still don't like her because of her bold requests of a married man. My question is this. What are the problems that arise after he is confronted and it turns out he didn't cheat? What happens to our relationship, what starts running through his mind, what happens to our trust, etc?

Hi giginola and welcome to the board,
My thinking on this is regardless of whether he had an affair or not he is going to deny it. Most people deny having had an affair until they are faced with solid proof of the fact. If you are willing to work on the marriage regardless of if he had an affair, I would recommend marriage counseling to help you deal with the issues that will/have arisen from this.
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Hi giginola and welcome to the board.
Since you already feel he did sleep with her, the trust is gone. For you to trust again would take a lot of effort on his part and possibly counseling.
>>>what happens to our trust<<<
There is no "OUR" trust right now. Waiting two months for him to carry on as he has been isn't going to improve that! Worrying about what will happen to "our" trust is pointless since there is no such thing right now.
In the end, it's not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away
-shing xiong
'I think they had sex'
Then there is no trust. You don't trust him or her. You know that they are still speaking and planning on seeing each other. In my opinion there is nothing left to your relaitoship if there is no trust.